An argument is an exchange of views between people who do not agree. Some arguments turn into angry quarrels. Suppose, a friend borrowed your car and left it full of fast-food rubbish. What if you dealt with the situation this way:
YOU: Why did you leave all that trash in my car? It's an absolute mess, and I'm tired of you always being so inconsiderate.
FRIEND: Look who's talking. You're such a slob（邋遢鬼）, I didn't think you'd notice. How did a minor incident turn into such an unpleasant exchange? You were angry and feeling as though your kindness was being abused. So instead of talking with your friend, you yelled at him. "Why did you" was a challenge. That's why your friend immediately went on the defensive and yelled back.
Now the argument is over. In fact, you don't feel satisfied that you've told him off! During the heat of the moment, he said something that hurt your feelings. And perhaps you didn't really mean what you said.
How can you avoid such situations? Learn to argue in a better way. Try something like this:
YOU: I don't like it when you leave trash in my car. It makes me feel like you don't respect me.
FRIEND: You're right. It was very inconsiderate. I won't do it again.
Before speaking, take a deep breath and get control of your anger. The words you use will let your friend know specifically what is bothering you and most importantly, treat him with respect. So he will respond in the same way.
Also notice that begin the argument with the pronoun "I". An argument beginning with “You did..." is generally a challenge. What usually follows is criticism or an insult. And it goes downhill fast from there.
Using “I” in arguments won't eliminate all disagreements. But it can certainly cut down on the yelling.
12. How may you feel after an unpleasant argument with your friend?
A. Angry and hurt. B. Still wanting to argue.
C. Satisfied with the yell. D. Challenged by the argument.
13. Which can probably replace the underlined phrase “ During the heat of the moment”?
A. When the weather is hot outside.
B. When the talk becomes exciting.
C. When the argument gets emotional.
D. When your friend is warmer than ever.
14. Which sentence might be used in an “I” argument?
A. You are making me feel bad.
B. What's the matter with you?
C. What on earth are you telling me?
D. It makes me feel bad when hearing that.
15. What is the text mainly about?
A. Winning arguments with other people.
B. Making sure that people do what you want
C. Using the “I” method to communicate better.
D. Avoiding having disagreement with ftiends.
答案
YOU: Why did you leave all that trash in my car? It's an absolute mess, and I'm tired of you always being so inconsiderate.
FRIEND: Look who's talking. You're such a slob（邋遢鬼）, I didn't think you'd notice. How did a minor incident turn into such an unpleasant exchange? You were angry and feeling as though your kindness was being abused. So instead of talking with your friend, you yelled at him. "Why did you" was a challenge. That's why your friend immediately went on the defensive and yelled back.
Now the argument is over. In fact, you don't feel satisfied that you've told him off! During the heat of the moment, he said something that hurt your feelings. And perhaps you didn't really mean what you said.
How can you avoid such situations? Learn to argue in a better way. Try something like this:
YOU: I don't like it when you leave trash in my car. It makes me feel like you don't respect me.
FRIEND: You're right. It was very inconsiderate. I won't do it again.
Before speaking, take a deep breath and get control of your anger. The words you use will let your friend know specifically what is bothering you and most importantly, treat him with respect. So he will respond in the same way.
Also notice that begin the argument with the pronoun "I". An argument beginning with “You did..." is generally a challenge. What usually follows is criticism or an insult. And it goes downhill fast from there.
Using “I” in arguments won't eliminate all disagreements. But it can certainly cut down on the yelling.
12. How may you feel after an unpleasant argument with your friend?
A. Angry and hurt. B. Still wanting to argue.
C. Satisfied with the yell. D. Challenged by the argument.
13. Which can probably replace the underlined phrase “ During the heat of the moment”?
A. When the weather is hot outside.
B. When the talk becomes exciting.
C. When the argument gets emotional.
D. When your friend is warmer than ever.
14. Which sentence might be used in an “I” argument?
A. You are making me feel bad.
B. What's the matter with you?
C. What on earth are you telling me?
D. It makes me feel bad when hearing that.
15. What is the text mainly about?
A. Winning arguments with other people.
B. Making sure that people do what you want
C. Using the “I” method to communicate better.
D. Avoiding having disagreement with ftiends.
答案
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